Recommit to each other
May kicks off wedding season in South Texas. Couples of all ages will commit their lives one to another in beautiful ceremonies filled with family, friends and faith commitments made before the Lord.
Many of the ceremonies will have their own unique flair based on the couple's style, but most ceremonies will share one thing in common - the vows. Most will include vows which include commitments beyond circumstances.
These vows cover every season and every challenge of life, including sickness and health, wealth and poverty, good days and bad with a commitment to be husband and wife until death do we part.
Every time I hear a couple state their vows, I flash back to almost 16 years ago when I married my wife. As they commit their lives to each other the first time, I recommit my life to my bride.
Try this yourself, the next time you attend a wedding, don't just witness the vows. If you are married, take the opportunity to recommit your life to your spouse.
Whether you have been married one year or 50 years, this is a great practice. If you aren't married, use the vows as a chance for to commit to be the kind of person that will love their future spouse beyond circumstances.
As married couples, when we consider our vows and recommit to our vows, we raise the value of our marriage. We re-prioritize and focus again on being the husband or wife that we dreamed we would be when we were married.
This is needed because these days, marriage seems overrated or obsolete to many. That is a shame.
Committing our lives to one another in marriage is a good thing, despite its many challenges and difficulties. The Bible is clear in Proverbs 18:22 (NIV) that "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord."
I think it would also be fair to extend this verse to say that she who finds a husband finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. Marriage is a good thing.
Those who have struggled through a divorce or are in a less-than-loving marriage will be shocked to read that marriage is a part of God bringing his favor onto our lives.
Rather than feeling like marriage is a blessing, we feel like we were a part of a ceremony like the one where a grandma watched her granddaughter play with Barbie dolls, a little Ken and a Barbie, and she was doing a wedding and she said now it is time for your vows. "You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you. You may now kiss the bride."
Your challenge is to not let your painful circumstances jade your perspective of what marriage could be or even should be. Don't turn what God says is good into something that is bad. Marriage is a good thing.
If you are among those who are happily married, never take your vows, or the blessings that come with them, for granted. Live them every day and you will know that marriage is a good thing.
Mike Hurt is the senior pastor of Parkway Church.